I received an inspired phone call from a friend yesterday… out of the blue. She hadn’t read my post from yesterday on forgiveness, but felt inspired to call me and pass along a message that I believe is pivotal in the area of forgiveness and freedom: our self-worth before God. And yesterday, she wrote these beautiful words on my blog:
“Shalimar, because you asked me to, I will share what I know about deep hurt and forgiveness. People who are mean are hurting. That doesn’t change how much I am worth and it doesn’t change how much they are worth. It is simply an indicator for their suffering. God has carved my name in the palm of his hand , I am more precious than silver or gold, he has numbered the hairs on my head. It is a great comfort to me to know that those who hurt me would gladly love me when I am ready to rush back into their arms or understand as I keep them at arms length as I recieve my full healing, so that I may truly love them as Christ has loved me (and I respect them and offer the same). As Gods people we are created to be in relationship with him and eachother. That is how we are the happiest. Forgiveness …what does that word really mean?
Love sees the best in all things so, in love I say “I don’t understand what you are doing but, I choose to believe you are doing it with the best of intentions and the rest is between you and God”.
Second, it means I will pray blessing over you and your house a hundred times and
Third, I see you as worth as much as me. Every day I will take this pill of forgiveness and hold everythought captive to the will of God.
Will I stumble? Of course. I will fail you Lord and I thank you for your grace, your comfort and your mercy I pray for your full healing Lord for all those involved. I will simply dust myself off and start over. I offer forgiveness and freedom as it has been offered to me. I am weak, I get tired but, I am blessed, God loves weakness and brokenness and he gives rest to the weary, so I work not to beat myself up over it. I count on and ask my brothers and sisters to pray for me as well that I may accept peace and grow in cultivating the habit of forgiveness and I know I can count on them to be praying a hedge of protection around me in case I get weak. I am loved, I am worthy of love, and because of Jesus I can offer Agape-the love of God….Beautiful, beautiful Shalimar just be the blessing you are and that cup will overflow like we are promised it will.”
I could not have communicated these thoughts better, and indeed, I am meditating on them today, Good Friday, the Ultimate Day of Forgiveness.
Today begins Mercy Week, where we have a chance to keep in mind forgiveness and mercy for the next 9 days (until Mercy Sunday). I will be meditating on whom I need to forgive, and I will be writing open letters on this blog to those I am forgiving… but I would like to invite you to do the same. Do you have someone you need to forgive? Someone who has hurt you and won’t reconcile with you? Or someone you are having a hard time forgiving? Perhaps, we need to forgive ourselves?
I know sometimes many of us are called to keep these thoughts to ourselves, or private… but sometimes there is a grace in getting something out in the open. I invite you to write, keeping people you are referring to anonymous of course ;), or even being as vague or specific as you feel comfortable with. Consider this a small group, where there are no judgments, and where most of us might even be strangers. No negative or judgmental comments will be allowed through at this time 😉
Let’s make a promise to forgive, wholeheartedly, those who have hurt us. As my friend stated above, we have infinite worth, we are beyond price, and Jesus died for us, the SON OF GOD DIED for us… can we even fathom that? Let us be FREE!
I will be writing open letters of forgiveness over the next nine days… as my way of freedom and mercy.
Much love, and Good Friday blessings,